Until we create space for someone to come in to our world, they can’t come in.
If that space is already half filled, we can only let someone half in. And they will sense it.
F*ck Buddies allow us to be half in/half out.
Saying we will stop sleeping with someone when we are sure the person we are dating is the one, is having your cake and eating it too.
The problem being that when we genuinely want someone to come in to our world as a life partner, but our actions state that we are only half serious, we are not creating space for that person to enter.
If you really want a life partner, make room for them.
Get rid of your back up plans, f*ck buddies and ‘flirty friends’.
Learn to make yourself feel good about your self and your life, and don’t rely on others to feed your ego.
So many people just terrified of getting hurt again, and if you want to be the one that attracts someone for a life partner, you need them to see that the space they are entering is safe.
Not fighting off the ‘extras’ until they create that space for themselves — most people will walk away if they have to do this. You would too.
Be the person who has finished with the past, knows what they want and has made room for it to happen — now that’s sexy.