Falling in love is a wonderful thing. Life is suddenly perfect, and everything glows.
But so often at some stage down the track, we realise the person we are with is not right for us. It may start showing with a drifting apart that you don’t even notice in the beginning. It may begin with starting to fight over the small stuff, until you fight more than you have fun. You may even end up wondering what on earth you saw in this person in the first place.
When the rose coloured glasses come off, the importance of taking your head with you when you fall in love will become very, very apparent.
But doesn’t that ruin it? The spontaneity, the joy, how does all that fit in if you’re being logical about love?
This is where smart dating comes in. Having a clearly defined knowledge of your requirements, wants and needs from a relationship will allow you to screen out people you meet before the feels start.
Leaving your heart open to fall in love with someone that you have already determined can bring the qualities you need to a relationship.
For many of us, the ‘list’ that determines our ideal partner contains many physical attributes, curvy, tall, blue eyes etc. The truth is, love can make any attribute beautiful.
But it isn’t the physical attributes that will determine the connection and duration of a relationship. Most of us put more thought into buying a car than we do choosing who we end up in a relationship with.
What you are looking for is qualities and values — and you can’t match them to yours unless you already know yours.
When your values and required qualities align with your partners, you are able to resolve the rough patches and continue along the same path together much more smoothly.